Where can you find tomorrow, today?
J.P. Montalvan • January 2, 2023
Happy New Year!
Last week I shared a meal with great friends at a Chinese restaurant. Whether you order Chinese food delivered or visit a Chinese restaurant, you know what the end-of-the-meal tradition will be — the fortune cookie.
Fortune cookies can be traced back to Japan in the 1870s and in the U.S. to the many Japanese people operating Chinese restaurants in Los Angeles and San Francisco in the early 1900s, where the cookies were made on iron grills.
I’ve always enjoyed reading the fortunes. By tradition, they are usually ancient proverbs that encapsulate life-long lessons passed down from generation to generation. These proverbs express all kinds of philosophies and ideas. In our busy lives, we don’t always break our everyday routines to get a new perspective. The fortune cookie is a fun way to do that. And my fortune that day really made me think.
“School is a building which has four walls with tomorrow inside.”
Chinese proverb? No! Dan Valentine seems to have penned these words in the 1960s here in the U.S. to talk about his view of elementary schools.
When I first read it, I really liked it. Then I wondered if a building with four walls was too strict a definition of “school.” Are our schools really the only spaces — or even the main places — where we learn?
When I think about what I’ve learned “in the field” — through the blood, sweat and tears of building businesses, growing and losing relationships with family and friends, the ups and downs of my health and fitness, etc. — the lessons are too many to count. And when I coach or work with my coach to better frame and understand what’s good, what’s not and the path ahead, I’ve seen life move forward more powerfully than before.
But what really stuck with me is Valentine’s vision of school and that “tomorrow is inside.” School — traditional or otherwise — is where you build your future. Learning and growing is where you build your tomorrow.
As I think about 2023, I’m thinking about what I need to learn to build my tomorrow.
Here are the "3 Questions of Growth for the New Year"
that I’m focusing on:
- In what areas of my life do I want to grow in 2023?
- What “school” can help me build my future?
- Who are the key people who can help me grow in my business and in my life?
Chinese tradition doesn't stop with proverbs about fortune. According to tradition, there are some things that people can do to fend off back luck and bring good luck into life. Whether you believe that or not, there’s a lot to the idea that “we make our own luck.”
You decide what you do.
There are many ways of going forward, and there are always people who can help you turn decades of their experience into days of you learning.
There are people who can help you avoid the same mistakes they made and grow faster by doing the things they did that worked. And there are people who can help you integrate what you’re learning so it sticks and you make the changes you really want to make. These are your “who.”
I wish you really good fortune in 2023. And I hope I can be part of your “who.” You can tune in right here for our weekly leadership conversations and stay tuned for a January workshop where we’ll talk about next-level leadership.

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