From touchdowns to transformation: One NFL player's journey might change your life

J.P. Montalvan • June 19, 2023
"I’ll go conquer the fear and it’ll lead me to what I’m meant to be doing."
-- Joe Hawley
photo courtesy of Thomson200

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From touchdowns to transformation: One NFL player's journey might change your life

Summer usually marks a change in how we work. We might trade our office chairs for inflatable pool floats and or our laptops for sunscreen. Forget about spreadsheets and deadlines; the only spreadsheets some people care about now are the ones that lay on the sand.

Summer vacations are the ultimate rebellion against responsibility, where flip-flops become our formal footwear and ice cream trucks are our designated food courts. Is life better when we're covered in sand and sporting a slightly questionable sunburn? This summer, our Leadership Circle and my teams are talking about vacations and one related and critical concept…

We’re talking about the importance of taking time for a retreat.

 We all need time for vacation — to rest and recover. We also need to retreat — to spend time evaluating where we are in life and resetting our goals. That’s where Joe Hawley's story comes in.

Joe Hawley played college football at the University of Nevada before being selected by the Atlanta Falcons in the fourth round of the 2010 NFL Draft. He spent the majority of his professional career with the Falcons, as a reliable and versatile offensive lineman. Hawley later had brief stints with the Tampa Bay Buccaneers and the Seattle Seahawks.

Since retiring from the NFL in 2017, Hawley has shared his personal journey of self-discovery, mindfulness, and helping others. He’s become an advocate for mental health, emphasizing the importance of holistic well-being beyond sports.

By 30, Howley had torn both shoulder labrums. He was living with a bulging disc in his neck and painful bone spurs in both ankles. His physical pain was compounded by this mental pain, having broken up with his fiancée. He realized that the demanding and highly competitive nature of the NFL took a toll on players' physical, mental and emotional well-being. Seeking a way to find balance and reconnect with their authentic selves, he organizes retreats that allow athletes to step away from the pressures of their careers.

 During Hawley’s retreats, athletes engage in activities such as mindfulness practices and group discussions. By creating a supportive and open environment, the retreats facilitate self-reflection and evaluation. Athletes have the opportunity to assess their goals, aspirations, and the impact of their careers on their overall happiness and fulfillment.

“We’re all really successful, high-achieving individuals who know how to push themselves and like all of a sudden in a moment, all of that’s gone,” Hawley says. “And it’s really hard, it’s really isolating. I think another thing that was challenging for me, personally, I think this is not talked about enough and I think a lot of guys go through this as well as the people closest to me like my parents, my family, my fiancé at the time — and so the feeling of not knowing who I am and the feeling of them not knowing who I am because I don’t even know who I am led me on this path of really trying to discover that for myself.”

Through Hawley’s retreat experience, these former athletes are able to reset their goals and redefine success on their own terms. They gain a deeper understanding of their purpose beyond sports and discover ways to integrate their athletic achievements with their personal growth. The retreats empower these athletes to shift their focus from the external validation of game day to internal fulfillment, helping them find a renewed sense of purpose and well-being.

As you ready yourself for vacation and the sun, you might consider spending a little time in retreat. Summer can be both a time to live a better life and design a better life. If you set aside a few hours for a retreat, you may find a catalyst for evaluation and goal resetting. By providing a dedicated time for reflection, you can assess where you are in your finances, with your family, with your feelings and with the other domains of your life, realign your aspirations, and set new goals that encompass your overall well-being and personal growth. Here are 5 seemingly simple yet powerful questions you might reflect on:
  • Who do I want to be in each area of my life?
  • How does what I do align with who I want to be?
  • How am I tracking how I’m doing as I become who I want to be?
  • What do I need to say “yes” to? What do I need to say “no” to?
  • Who can help me?
“If we can focus the energy they put into the sports into themselves and their self-growth, really, magic can happen,” Hawley says of why he organizes his retreats.

Whether you're an athlete, professional, or just someone looking to grow, I hope you enjoy all your Summer and sun and vacation. I also hope you will focus some of that energy into a retreat, taking the right time to step back, reflect, and revise your roadmap for your future.

Because it’s not just during summer but in all parts of our lives that the magic happens.
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