Like Iranians and Ukrainians, are you in harm's way?
J.P. Montalvan • October 17, 2022
“No panic. We're strong. We're ready for anything."
- Volodymyr Zelensky, President of Ukraine
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Would you put yourself in harm’s way for what you need and believe?
Sometimes it seems like the world is burning — that crises are all around us. In Iran, protests erupted over the death of Mahsa Amini, 22, who died in hospital following her arrest by the Tehran morality police who enforce the strict dress rules on women. In Russia, widespread protests started when President Putin announced plans to draft 300,000 men to fight in Ukraine. And in Ukraine, the country is literally burning, since Russia invaded early in 2022.
Iran, Russia and Ukraine offer us a perspective on crises. We’re really lucky — don’t need to put ourselves in harm’s way. Or do we?
Last week when we talked about Hurricane Ian, I shared with you that storms – crises – can look like a lot of things. A big drop in business. A job loss. The sudden illness or death of a family member. A traumatic injury. A pandemic. A hurricane. Whether you’re leading your business or you’re leading your family, storms happen.
Crisis experts know that storms take a toll on us that involve significant change, high levels of uncertainty and complexity. When we understand these patterns, we learn lessons for leading ourselves and our loved ones through a crisis. One of the “3 Lessons of Crisis Leadership” I shared last week was…
#3 – The time to plan and practice for a storm is well before the storm.
And the only way you can practice for a crisis is to put yourself in harm’s way.
You don’t need to put yourself at significant risk to practice for a crisis. Start by thinking about the confidence you’ve built in past storms, and how you would bring that power to face and overcome the upcoming storms you’ll face. Then think about the “holes” you have in your business and in your life.
What if something were to happen to you, your team or your family? What if your/their finances were to take a hit? What if you or they experienced sudden, pronounced anxiety or depression? What if you were to experience a traumatic health event or a natural disaster?
Imagine the crises others face and ask, “what would I have to do if…?” Ask “who can help me?” Who will be your “team” in helping you face the storm?
Then stress test your plan and tactics. Talk with your team and your family on what you could and would do. When a “mini-crisis” happens, test yourself — can you bring that empowering mindset and right tactics to that mini-crisis? What were the holes you discovered in your response? How can you fill the gaps?
Whether it’s recession, the loss of a loved one, a long illness or a business shake-up, you know that a storm’s ahead.
It’s not that a crisis is coming — one always is. It’s the planning and the preparation that you’re doing right now to survive if not thrive in the storm.

As a leadership coach, I get to work with a diverse range of entrepreneurs and intrapreneurs – quite a few real estate agents, fitness professionals, mortgage lenders, government contractors and others. Come April, it's like clockwork – we all start realizing how easy it is to lose sight of our yearly goals by the end of the first quarter. Life gets busy, we get caught up in the whirlwind of reactivity, and suddenly, those big dreams we had at the start of the year feel miles away.

As most of you know, tragedy struck on what would have otherwise been an ordinary night earlier this week in the heart of Baltimore. The Francis Scott Key Bridge, an iconic structure that spanned the Patapsco River, became the focal point of a devastating disaster that has shaken Baltimore and the region to its core. As I think about the events of that night, there’s a lot to unpack, from preparedness and the “why” behind a crisis to quick thinking and the human capacity for heroism in the face of adversity.

Happy Hump Day!
I don’t usually reach out to you on Wednesdays, and I wanted to share that Wednesday isn't just any ol' day – it's the linchpin of your week. Why?
As I’m sharing with my Leadership Circle this quarter, Wednesday isn't just the midpoint of the typical work week calendar. It's a golden opportunity for us to hit pause, reassess, and realign ourselves with what really matters – our weekly priorities.

Edwin was born in the small town of Steubenville, Ohio. His education started in Miss Randle’s kindergarten and was followed by Henry Orr’s seminary around the block. At 10, he entered George Buchanan’s nearby Latin school where he was called “an imperious and self-reliant young man.”
Edwin’s lifelong struggle with asthma might have contributed to his temper, but so could have the early death of his father and the deaths of his brother and two children.
And on the eve of achieving his life’s dream — nomination to the Supreme Court — Edwin Stanton’s chronic asthma caused his death in 1869.

As I sit here late at night in my parent’s family room, a few hours away from our home, thinking about you, it dawns on me that we’re often wrapped up with how leadership impacts us in the work world. But the reality is that it permeates every part of our lives – and especially our relationships with family and friends.
This weekend, the conversations with my parents are covering a myriad of topics, from advice on navigating parenthood with our newborn daughter to discussing strategies for managing their health.

Recently, Veronica and I took a trip to the beautiful Virginia countryside around Flint Hill, Virginia. As we took in the breathtaking, winter scenery of rolling hills, horses, cattle and more, we decided to stop for lunch at the inviting Dark Horse Irish Pub. Little did we know that our dining experience would include both delicious food and the unexpected wisdom of a heartfelt connection.
Upon entering the cozy pub, we were greeted incredibly warmly. Our waiter was a young man who attended to us graciously through our meal, and when he had to leave was replaced by an older waiter. The older waiter had a twinkle in his eye, as they say, and he immediately struck a chord with us. As our main meal switched to delicious desserts, he engaged us in some lively conversation and took a genuine interest in our newborn daughter in the stroller by our table. His genuine care and enthusiasm was really something.

In the challenging world of Hollywood, with a sea of scripts and opportunities, Reese knew what she wanted. Despite some early success and the offers of darker and more intense roles, she was drawn towards “optimistic” storylines that inspired and uplifted. She wanted to make a meaningful impact on her audience, especially girls and young women.
“I got a role in this movie called Freeway playing this really angry, aggressive, violent young woman who believed wholeheartedly in the truth,” Reese shared. “I had such satisfaction afterward, and I thought, that's what I want to do.”

Closing the Gap: Kareem’s Legacy and Your “Big 3” to Success
In the fast-paced world we live in, it's easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of daily tasks and lose sight of our priorities. If you’re anything like me, it happens when we think about the gaps between where we are and where we want to go, in business or in our personal lives.
Kareem dedicates much of his time now to empowering marginalized communities, reflected in his book "Writings on the Wall: Searching for a New Equality Beyond Black and White." He was asked once about his ability to prioritize amidst the glitz of a storied career.

Getting picked last isn't great. Brock would know…
As February rolls in, it's time for a reality check on our goals. How often have you lost sight of your aspirations by now, slipping from proactive to reactive mode? I know I have in the past. How do we stay focused in the chaos of a competitive, hyperconnected world? That's a heck of a ball game.
And when we lose sight of our goals – our big goals – we are picking ourselves last.