"When the road gets dark, and you can no longer see..."

J.P. Montalvan • October 3, 2022
“I will catch you, I will catch your fall, Just have a little faith in me."
- John Haitt

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"Have a Little Faith in Me."

Whether it’s John Haitt who wrote “Have a Little Faith in Me,” or Joe Cocker or Bon Jovi who covered it, I love the simple but deep yearning their voices bring to this song. The road gets dark for a lot of us, right? The voices bring a unique perspective to what they sing. 

And what I've learned in coaching is that most of us are facing some darkness in our lives.

Where does the darkness come from? Usually it comes from things that happen to us in our lives. Or at least we think it does. Because when we face our darkness, it comes from us facing something that happened that we didn’t expect (in our past) or that we're not expecting (in our present).

But our darkness really comes from not knowing where we are or what we want in our lives.

If we really know where we are or what we want in our lives, when we hit a road bump, big or small, we know it's just that -- a bump. Bumps are to be expected. There is no such thing as a perfectly smooth or straight road.

When we don't know what we want in our lives — or where we are relative to our life plans — we face the darkness. We’re adrift, seemingly alone, in the dark waters at night.

While I’ve had good successes this year, I’ve also faced a relationship break-up and a downturn in one of my businesses this year. That means that in several domains of my life — family, finances, feelings and focus — I've been facing a dark road.

And yet what brings me back is being clear and going back to what I really want in my life and the small “domino” actions I need to take to get there. Here’s a “Quick Take” I shared with my Leadership Circle on how you can “shrink” the domino actions in your life.

So while the road is dark, I can see. I also have the great “who” in my life that help me have faith and knock over the right dominos.

Wherever you are, whatever dark road you’re facing, know that as John Haitt sings, “time is our friend.” The road will reveal itself, especially if you really think about what you want and the small domino actions you can do to get there. I know…I’ve been there too.

“Have a little faith.” Have a little faith in you.
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